So, I have a mini confession. I love reality television. It is my guilty pleasure. I like everything from the Kardashians to the Real Housewives series to the latest Love & Hip Hop Atlanta. My absolute favorite is the Tia and Tamera show, which is honestly pretty positive.
I think a part of my fascination with the shows is that they provide a window into the lives of other people in a different way then the usual made-up fiction on television. I know you are saying outloud or perhaps yelling at the computer screen as you read this — reality tv isn’t real!
Yes, I know it is not real. I have friends who work as producers for several shows – but the storylines, although pumped up and exaggerated for ratings, are based off the lives of real people. I like that part of it.
It’s also just fun to watch really pretty people talk about silly things. It’s a distraction from the “real” things that are occuring in my life where pretty hair and makeup doesn’t fix everything. And it also may be me just missing my pretty Los Angeles too.
The strange thing I discovered as I was watching a Love & Hip Hop Atlanta episode yesterday is how ugly and vulgar the ladies sounded. Almost every word included the “f” word or calling another woman a “B”. And for the first time in a long time, the show left me feeling really disturbed. The emotions were there, bare for all to see. And the words were so hurtful.
You see, over the past week, I’ve been really working on my own speech and my emotional communications, as I discussed earlier. God has spoken to my heart and into my life in this area. He’s trying to clean it up.
In addition to showing me how my words can harm more than they heal the one I love, He is now showing me the ugliness of these types of words and interactions in modern day society. It is simply all around us – from the shows on television to the music on the radio. And this “ugliness” of words goes relatively unnoticed.
Wow, the Lord has been really working on me.
For the She Reads Truth bible study, we’ve been reading and meditating on Proverbs. I am still constantly amazed at how His Word speaks to me amidst all the parables.
And although I am playing a little catch up from falling behind due to my experience with Marley this week, I realized that God’s Word to me is always on time.
Careful words make for a careful life; careless talk may ruin everything. Proverbs 13:3. [MSG]
As I was re-reading Proverbs 13 this morning, I was struck by several passages. Warnings about careless and irresponsible talk and the impact that it has on its life.
Irresponsible talk makes real mess of things, but a reliable reporter is a healing presence. Proverbs 13:7 [MSG]
So I read my study bible a little closer and discovered notes on self-control. For Proverbs 13:3, it states that “You have not mastered self-control if you do not control what you say. Words can cut and destroy. James recognized this truth when he stated, ‘The tongue is a little member and boasts general things’ (James 3:5). If you want to be self-controlled, begin with your tongue. Stop and think before you react or speak. If you can control this small but powerful member, you can control the rest of your body.”
But I began asking the Lord, but what about emotions? What about anger and sadness?
And then I turned to my favorite daily bible, Jesus Calling, as I read through Proverbs 12 and 13. It had a whole section on Self-Control. [Yes, the Lord always answers my questions through his Word.]
The bible pointed me to Ephesians 4:26-27. [NKJV]
“Be angry, and do not sin: do not let the sun go down on your wrath, nor give place to the devil.”
And then it pointed me to …
“Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers.” Ephesians 4:29. [NKJV]
For many schooled Christians these passages may already be well known, but for me, they were the perfect words for a glimpse into understanding the connection between anger, words, emotions generally, and self-control. They are all connected.
My Jesus Calling bible further assisted with a message to ask the Holy Spirit to help me whenever I speak. So, in addition to being quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry, I should call on the Holy Spirit before using this powerful ability to verbalize – recklessly. I love it.
“So then my beloved brethen, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath; for the wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God.” James 1:19-20 [NKJV]
As for the reality television guilty pleasure, I’m not sure that it will go away anytime soon. They aren’t all bad. Hey, I’m just being honest. It is, however, losing some of its appeal, as I continue to work on having my words draw people closer and bless them instead of harming them. This is my prayer Lord.
I’d love to hear what you think. Please drop me an email or comment.
Wishing you hope, peace, and joy,
Linking up with Ann too!